Saturday, 13 June 2015

Wed-threads: The Wedding! (Bride's perspective)

Photograph: Rob Grimes Photography

So we did it! I'm now a married woman. It was all surprisingly simple in the end - despite all the panics along the way! I wanted to write down my memories of the day, and the build up to it, before they completely fade into the ether - and hope Gareth will do the same! This is a long read, and entirely for my own memory and pleasure, so please don't feel obligated to read!

Leading up to the big day:
Originally I only had the Friday booked off work, getting married the day after. This was a foolish oversight and I am so pleased I bunged my leftover holiday days onto the start of my time off. It made it less stressful, I had time to reflect and plan - Friday was a mad dash as it was, I can't imagine what it would have been like otherwise!

Cake toppers by badgers badgers.
Cake by Little Cake Cupboard.
Photo: Laura Blakemore
I looked over my wedding checklist - it recommended I should contact all the vendors in the week leading up to the wedding. Seemed simple enough. I went about emailing and calling everyone - having lovely chats with the florist, confirming apartment details with the photographer, arranging to drop the cake toppers over to Little Cake Cupboard. Then the panicky bits started - the car company was based in the wilds of Wales and hadn't received the contract I had posted back to them. (They had received the dosh though, thankfully - I love bank transfers!) It was printed out again, carefully filled out, scanned in, emailed back, phew.

Then I called the caterers - who alarmed me generally, as they were very laid back but there had been no tasting or request for payment despite me asking for an invoice. (They had stopped tastings due to being unable to order single items - for a bride and groom to try a quail's egg starter they had to order fifty eggs. It created a lot of waste.) I called them and spoke to a lovely gentleman, who unfortunately didn't have a clue who I was. He checked his bookings for the following weekend - he couldn't find us. My blood went cold. He reassured me that everything would be fine, if I emailed him the final numbers (which was what I had been calling him with, originally), the courses and any other finer details then they would sort it all out. He suggested that perhaps we had been with a gentlemen who had since been sacked, and left no paperwork behind.

I hung off, politely agreeing to email him, with stressed fireworks going off in my head and panic stopping thought-processes dead. I spoke to my fiance, who unfortunately stresses even more than I do in this situation. He rang them back, was informed that they had found our booking, the gentleman we had been dealing with was not the sacked one but was instead on holiday. Unsteady, disbelieving relief descended on the room. We insisted on a meeting the next day to ensure we could talk over all the details. Thankfully that meeting went well!

We met the registrar - Elinor - a few days before hand. This was so calming after a stressful few days, she gave us a print out of our ceremony so we knew exactly what was happening at what point. This appealed to my fact-obsessive nature. We discussed our little surprise with her and she was delighted, offering to help however she could. She was fantastic - and coffee 1 in Whitchurch does fabulous juices and smoothies, which made us happier still!

Favours:
Welsh Slate coaster with handwritten
name in chalk (by moi)
Sweets: Just Favours
Photo: Ryan Farrell
The next few days were filled with last minute shopping trips - cards to write speeches, gift bags for presents, clothes for honeymoon, presents for each other - making the wedding favours (named slate coasters) and my mother arriving. As usual she was equally delighted with the garden as the planning for the wedding, and we spent many an hour discussing my ever-dying mint (who can kill mint bar me? Everyone confidently assures me it should go bonkers. Mine goes brown, wilts and dies - even when planted alongside other plants that thrive.) I spent many an hour hinting she should write her speech down. She then read the reading she had chosen (both mothers were delivering the readings for the wedding, and were our witnesses.) - and thankfully realised that it could be seen as a bit negative and miserable (something that had been a continuous worry for me.) We chatted, edited it together, and all was well.

Thursday was a day filled with terror and joy. It was the day I had to start attempting to be pretty. Not my forte, doesn't even really interest me. And as somebody who has very little clue about such things, I just booked everything and hoped for the best. The pedicure was nice - it tickled but I didn't kick anyone in the face, so that counted as a success. I felt awful for the poor Polish girl who was helping me, I'd requested a french polish but two nails in I realised I absolutely hated it, and language barriers meant it was very difficult for each of us to comprehend each other. Mortified that I wasn't making life easy for anyone, I picked the first colour I saw from the nail polishes - a very yellow gold. It was nice, but in hindsight I'd have picked something that went with my vampiric skin tone better. Of course, I was far too English and nervous to ever say anything other than it was wonderful.

Manicure: Wonderland
Awful photo? Me.
Hands were next - at least this time I knew I didn't want a french polish, and I'd found a picture in their catalogues of previous customers that I adored. Unfortunately this meant lots of discussion with the head nail stylist, as she talked to me in English and then explained the technique to my fabulous nail artist in Polish. It reminded me of when I was on work experience in Germany - having to give a tour of an art museum in German, knowing only moderate German and absolutely nothing about art. I hate putting people out, and felt pretty mortified by this point. My nails, however, were terrific. Sparkly, with little flowers on the accent nails. I love glitter (but not glittery vampires.)

Then it was time for the waxing. Waxing being something normally to only occur in my own bathroom, and mostly involved scary memories of burning my armpits the day before I met Gareth for the first time, and keeping my arms clamped by my sides for an entire week. The lady was amazing and we chatted about the differences between British and Polish weddings - she told me I was getting married really quickly, and that normally you'd wait eight or nine years (I've been with Gareth for four years.) My pain threshold being pathetic, it wasn't delightful but I loved chatting wedding and cultural differences so found the last few hours far more bearable than the abject horror of being a right pain in the arse earlier.

The day before:
Then it was Friday. It was the day before our wedding. My last day of using my surname. A day that would end without Gareth next to me. I was terrified. I cried a lot.

In the morning I texted every vendor - and relief flooded in as they all replied, saying 'yes you stupid woman you've paid me to be there and I will arrive' (they were all a lot politer than that, but I felt a bit like a nagging old woman by that point.) I had a chat with the car company who advised due to all the road closures ever - One Direction were in town - they were going to pick me up 40 minutes earlier. This meant contacting hair and make up who pushed their times an hour earlier as well, which meant I had to get the bridesmaids to arrive an hour earlier... It was a bit of a palaver, but unusually it didn't stress me out. I like to be early, so increased earliness I found comforting rather than a last minute stress.

Then it was time to takes boxes and boxes of carefully labelled stuff to the Castle - boxes of favours (named slate coasters and sweets), vases, decorations, table plans, reserved seating signs, the readings, the wishing well and all its sundry items and meet the fantastic Mike Pitt who was duty manager on the day. He talked us through the day with military precision, and again the happiness and calm flooded back for a few short moments. It was all happening! It would be okay!

My Wedding Dress!
Vanity Fair by Ian Stuart
Wedding Days of Cheltenham
All I did that day was driving - driving back to the house to get stuff for the apartment I was staying in, to get Gareth's stuff for him to stay at his best man's, driving to the apartment, setting it all up, driving to meet the best man to swap car contents (suits!) Then having to leave Gareth far too quickly because it was 5pm and I still had to drive to my mother-in-law's to pick up my mother's outfit, the bridesmaid dresses, and my wedding dress, and then drive back to the apartment. I got in at 7pm and then I realised there was a problem - I was parked underground. There were three doors and a lift between my car (containing the wedding dress) and the apartment. All the doors were fire doors - with very strict "KEEP SHUT" signs on them. The wedding dress weighed a ton, and obviously I had to hold it above the ground. It wasn't even in a plastic container but my mam-in-law's duvet cover as the dress needed to breathe and fan out all its layers. How the fuck was I going to get that to the apartment? It was late, I was shattered, I was tearful and stressed. It was not ideal. So I cheated and nicked all the door stops, left every door unlocked praying some dick wouldn't come in and steal my wedding shoes (I know they normally wouldn't, but it would be typical something shit would happen when I couldn't do much to resolve it.) wedged every fire door in sight open, grabbed the dress and flung it over my arm, got it up and flung it on the bed. Then I ate far too much lasagne, as I needed to recover.

Slowly I sorted myself out - vetoed the sauna and jacuzzi because I was shattered, washed my hair and went to bed. I slept until about 3am, at which point it seemed completely necessary to get up and have a cup of tea and then rub a lot of moisturiser in. I never really got back to bed - the butterflies had set in.

Wedding day:
At 6am I received a text from my bridesmaid, Cathy. She and my mother were up (a miracle as my mother is profoundly deaf and we were very worried about her wakening in time.) and would be there soon. I then annoyed her with lots of questions like "Have you had breakfast?" "Bring bread." "Bring milk." "We only have four cups. Bring mugs!" All in irritating separate texts like that. I'm sure she found that very helpful so early in the morning, but thankfully she bit back any irritation and just got on with it! Soon the intercom was buzzing and I was running around trying to get everybody in and comfy - Laura, my other bridesmaid, also arrived with a fantastic bag of useful "on the day" stuff. I have to say my bridesmaids was epically wonderful - from chief mother-wrangler (an impossible job) to organised-secretary-extraordinaire. Time for tea and toast. Nobody fancied my awesome chocolate orange tea though, boring sods.

Everybody getting beautified
around me. Beautycurl
Then hair and make up arrived - the lovely Heather and Charlotte - they got the room ship shape, rearranging it for the best light/power-point combination and started grabbing my mother and bridesmaids to be appropriately beautified. I lazed on the sofa watching the news merge into Saturday Kitchen, suddenly feeling very, very tired. Intercom again - the photographers were here! I said hi to Rob, who then went off to the boys and welcomed the lovely Chelsea. After hellos, Chelsea promptly disappeared into the bedroom to do detail shots of the dress, shoes, bridesmaid dresses etc while we all lounged around in our pyjamas. I was starting to feel a bit awkward - everybody was getting all dolled up around me, and I was sitting in my pyjamas as the bride is done last so she is the "freshest." I kept trying to get people tea and biscuits but everyone was too busy and I was too nervous. It was a stressful hour, which I spent cooing over what a good job Charlotte and Heather were doing - the girls looked absolutely bloody amazing.

A photo posted by Chelsea LaVere (@chelsea_lavere) on

Amazing hair by Charlotte.
Photo: Beautycurl.
Then it was my turn. When I contacted Janet Ashby-White (who arranges make up artists and hair stylists) she had told me only one hair stylist could possibly do the complicated rose plaits I wanted, and she was on holiday. Charlotte emailed me from holiday to say she was available and more than happy to try! The trial went fabulously and this time was even better - there were sparkles and a whole ton of hair spray (last time a trip to the cinema, and me leaning back had been a bit much for the delicate hairstyle.) I felt amazing. Then Heather got in on the act, and suddenly my stressed spotty skin (toothpaste at 3am had been utilised to bring down some particularly evil visitations - I may not be a teenager any more, but thankfully it still works.) turned flawless and my lips were reddened (I hate nude lips. It could only be red lips on my wedding day.)

Charlotte putting my veil in.
Photo: Beautycurl
Then it was time to get dressed. First it was time for the heels - gigantically heeled Irregular Choice beauties. I had been rubbish at wearing them in - one trip to the Coop at the end of the street, and then washing up a few times had been the extent of it. I was an utter fool, but thankfully coped. Then the bridesmaids had to hold the dress open, while I hopped about trying not to tear the tulle as I tried to find the floor. I'm sure it was very elegant(!) Then it was crochet hooks at the ready as they zipped and buttoned until I was suitably imprisoned. Then they got dressed and we all looked quite, quite fabulous.

Photo by Laura Blakemore.
Flowers from Forbesfield.




Then darling, darling Beth arrived with the flowers. I adored Beth - she put up with my scatty nature brilliantly and had sensibly reminded me to "keep breathing!" a lot. And her floral creations were breathtaking. Lots of different pastel colours, delicate and wild, with lots of foliage - exactly what I had requested but with her trademark style all over them. We all got rather excited at that point - and Chelsea was amazing and identified half the flowers in my bouquet before I had even noticed all the colours. Then it was time for photos! Laura had her instant camera out for cool polaroids, and Chelsea took me out to the balcony where I spent a lot of time panicking my veil would fall out and fly into the river. It was rather windy. She taught me how to stand, how to hold my arms and look in particular directions and was utterly exceptional.

Chelsea taking photos of Laura and her gorgeous bouquet.

Then we sat for a nervous hour wondering where the car was - I had stupidly turned my phone off, relying on the intercom which people had to dial just to be allowed entry into the complex. Ten minutes after arrival time I switched my phone on and called Sharron - the gates had been open and she was waiting outside! Time to go! We bundled into the lift and then jumped into Benny, a gorgeous ivory London Taxi.

The drive seemed to go smoothly - we were chatting with Sharron, who had been so amazing in the build up to the wedding, checking post codes and calling the venue to arrange which entrance we were coming in. Then we got to the Castle! There was a bored looking security guard at the entrance, who stopped us as we waited patiently at the gate. He had no clue who we were, and was clearly there to ensure the lorries could get in and out that were carrying the staging for the Manic Street Preachers concert, which had been on the night before. He radioed through, and we waited. This was when my nerves really set in, I wasn't wearing a watch and kept anxiously asking the time - I felt certain we were going to be late. And not bridal late, but wrecking the wedding late - we had a tight slot with the registrar and she had warned me I couldn't afford to arrive after 2.45pm. We waited for ten minutes, with poor Sharron carefully explaining to the guard that she had already arranged this with the Castle and that the roads for the other entrance (which they now expected us to go in) were closed. Time ticked on.

Car: Benny from LoveDub Weddings
Photo: Rob Grimes Photography
Then finally we got the go ahead! We swept into Bute Park, with Sharron asking if I wanted to stop for photos as I had originally intended. I couldn't bear to. I was so stressed about timings at this point, I just wanted to get into the Castle. Besides, the lovely drawbridge entrance was covered in detritus from the concert and wasn't providing the beautiful backdrop I had hoped for. We pulled in and there was Mike Pitt happily directing us - suddenly I felt reassured again, everything was back on track. We stopped for photos, Rob had appeared from the depths of the undercroft and was directing us - where the car should be, where I should be, the bridesmaids, I smiled and panicked, and smiled and panicked and just went with the flow at this point. I was at the Castle. Everything was okay. My brother was standing by, he was giving me away. Everything was okay.

The radio peeped - all the guests were seated. It was time to go into the Undercroft. The standard entrance is down some twisty, steep stairs - in my heels I was terrified but Mike went ahead of me so I could grab him if I tripped and my bridesmaids stayed behind to keep my dress off the ground. Why had I chosen such a cumbersome outfit?! But it was sunny and dry, the day was lovely, and I was getting married. There was no point questioning these things. We went into the bar area, where Carol (the other registrar) came in to check a few details. I remember her asking my name, which I confirmed. Then she asked me what I had formerly been known as. I was baffled. Seconds passed. Then I remembered I'd changed my name - moved my mother's surname from my middle name to double barrel my surname, instead. It sounded identical, but legally there was a difference. I passed the test.

Then Elinor came in, she confirmed which side my brother, Ian, would be walking on as on the day we had become confused about the most obvious of things. Then we were ready - the children, now nervous themselves clutching on to their mothers' hands, started to panic and grizzle - it was a quick decision to make sure the mams walked down with them. Weddings aren't about upsetting children, you just go with the flow. They waited for my nod for the music - I had to explain it would be a long intro, and we didn't go in until Jeff Buckley started singing. There was that distinctive twang in the music, and I knew we were nearly ready to go! The boys left, holding on to Helen's hand - one carried the rings, the other a little sign declaring "Uncle Gareth here comes your bride!" Then the bridesmaids, who had both insisted neither one of them wanted to go first. Mike flipped a coin, Laura went for heads, Cathy for tails. Heads it was. Laura got the choice, and Cathy had to go first. They left. Then I had to walk up more steps - trying to not muff up my train at the same time. Paused. Then I walked down the aisle on my brother's arm.

Photograph: Rob Grimes Photography
Venue: Cardiff Castle Undercroft
I had been told time and time again to enjoy walking down the aisle - not to rush, but go slowly and take in the moment. I don't remember anything but faces - my cousin David beaming, Gareth's aunt Ros winking at me, Liza, the best man's girlfriend, looking stunning. Then I was by Gareth's side. He looked so pale, so stressed, with wet tearful eyes. He was - is - the man I loved most in all the world. I wanted to kiss him, but knew I was meant to wait. It didn't take long to grab his hand. The ceremony went in a blur - we repeated everything Elinor said, slowly, fumbling the words in our nervousness occasionally. My mother performed her reading - an extract from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. We said our vows,  tried to push the rings on to our sweaty, shaky hands. Then it was Gareth's mam's reading - an extract from Captain Corelli's Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres - her tears nearly meant I lost it as well. I broke away from Gareth to give her a cwtch. Then so, so quickly we were married and signing the register as Elbow played. There were so many photos, but now we were giggly and delighted - we'd done it, we were man and wife! As people took pictures, we messed around - pretending to sign different signatures, James Dean, Marilyn Monroe, we were high on the moment and we knew our surprise was about to happen and would either be amazing or really go horrifically wrong.

Signing the register. (Well..)
Photo: Rob Grimes Photography

Photo: Ryan Farrell
We prepared to walk back down the aisle together. In the background Elinor knew exactly what to do. I Am The Doctor started to play, and down we walked, with a monster declaring "Exterminate!" in the background as it swung through the Undercroft doors. A Dalek had come to our wedding. Gareth walked us down the aisle so quickly, I barely took in the chaos around us! I can't wait to see the photos - only a very select number of people knew (the vendors, the best man, the kids - we were worried they would be terrified - and their mum/gramma.) The bridesmaids had been winding me up all morning trying to work out who the mysterious Bob was while I, Chelsea, Charlotte and Heather giggled in the corner - I'm glad they failed!

Punch the air - we did it!
Photo: Rob Grimes Photography
Out to the bar, a few moments to catch our breath and then it was time for the fastest formal photos ever known to man. I had armed Simon, the best man, and Chelsea - the second photographer - with named lists for each one, and Rob focused and snapped with utmost precision! Something that I had expected to take an hour, took less than half of that! Then came the best bits - the fun bits, the romantic bits, the passionate bits. Rob directed us and like nervous pupils we endeavoured to do as instructed. We jumped (yes in my heels that was terrifying!), we messed around with the bridesmaids, we hid away from the crowd on the balcony and had a proper first kiss (watched by incredibly awkward bridesmaids!) It was amazing. It was beautiful. Every time Rob showed us his viewfinder I wanted to cry. He was a joy.

Told to act natural. So I tickled Cathy and she batted me away.
Laura and Gareth were the only adults here..
Photo: Rob Grimes Photography

Photo: Ian Bishop
Then it was time for the wedding breakfast. Again we waited for everyone to be seated and then were announced by Mike Pitt. In we went - though trying to get my gigantic dress to the table, or to sit on a chair (or a throne as Gareth and I had, even if neither of us noticed until the speeches!) was slightly difficult! Alan started playing some great rat pack tunes and the atmosphere settled into happy chat as relatives got to discuss old memories, and acquaintances reconnected. Then the food arrived - a starter of Welsh Rarebit with Carmarthen Ham, which was lovely and quickly gone. We had fantastic waitresses, who kept magically refilling your wine glass. It was really hard to work out how much you had drunk! I stopped drinking very quickly - I get drunk easily, and I really wanted to have clear mind so I could remember the day as best I could, as everyone had warned me the memories would fade quickly (hence this far-too-detailed blog!) I couldn't believe my eyes when the main course came out - it was a massive shank of lamb, with enough meat on for two. I was delighted - to my brothers' constant regret I am an unrepentant carnivore - but incredibly nervous for my dress. I borrowed practically every napkin on the table, and splattered most of them with gravy. I'm not a tidy eater, but thankfully the dress survived my onslaught.


I felt sorry for Gareth - nerves had got to his stomach, and were clearly affecting a man who is normally highly capable of devouring his own plateful and scraps from anybody else's! Poor sod - the food was delectable. Finally it was pudding - a trio of citrus tarts: an incredibly tangy lemon tart, a Cointreau mousse, and a lime and coconut ice cream on biscuit. Delicious, we were stuffed but were getting nervous - it was nearly time for speeches and there were a lot of them! Simon stood up, thanked everyone and introduced my brother. He spoke about my father, about Gareth, and I wanted to cry - I spent most of the day desperately trying not to burst into floods. Then it was John - my father-in-law, who gave a lovely funny speech, but unfortunately had forgotten his reading glasses! It became even more endearing when my mother-in-law stepped in to help him read it. My mother was next, and thankfully I'd already done my crying over her speech in private as I'd proof-read it. Again my father was a highlight, and I loved her words about my new family.

It was my turn next. I quickly realised I hated the microphone and got rid of that irritation speedily. I had expected to be far more nervous but thankfully it seemed to go well, possibly because I'd chosen to make most of it a quote from The Girl Who Waited (Doctor Who): "You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they're as dull as a brick. Then there's other people and you meet them and you think, "Not bad, they're okay." And then you get to know them and... and they're face just sort of... becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just... they turn into something so beautiful." Gareth is the most beautiful man I have ever met.

Photo: Ian Bishop
Poor Ga's turn was next - and he technically had a simple speech: thanking everyone and giving them their gifts. He got into the swing of it quickly but possibly a bit too well! He forgot to give the first gift, and then had to continue the rest of the speech without them. My questioning eyes were on him, but it was too late - at that point there was nothing we could do bar have a muttered discussion about how best to give the gifts afterwards (privately or one of us giving yet another speech!) Thankfully it was Simon's speech next and it was a cracker - full of jokes and memories, it made the room come alive. I cannot thank Simon and Liza (who expertly wrote it I believe!) enough. I couldn't believe it when he later told me he'd accidentally missed a page - he'd carried the performance with such vigour and charisma. Everybody came up to me afterwards to say how much they had enjoyed the speeches - often I think this must be a politeness, but they were so lovely and people so genuine on the day that I really do think they went down quite well!

Then out to the bar - for the guests it was time for another drink, for us it was time to go out with Rob and Chelsea again. Rob had an amazing light that he was using to alter the outside lighting conditions, and was taking some gorgeous photos of us with the Castle as a backdrop. It was so clever and I love these photos so much:

Photo: Rob Grimes Photography

Photo: Laura Blakemore
Then it was time to kickback and relax - we were wandering back to the Castle and noticed our friends had congregated around the Dalek (they're not predictable, honest!) They were all having turns in it. All day I had suggested Gareth tried driving it, and all day he had protested saying he didn't want to. Finally he was persuaded, and in he went chasing after Simon and spraying him with a water gun "You have ripped your trousers, you may as well wet them too!" and then nearly knocked into my mother! It was such fun to watch him chase about. One of the many things I love about Gareth is his ability to have fun with himself, and not take things too seriously. I was jealous though - I wanted a turn, but how the hell was my dress going to fit into that?! Bob's owner, David, who had been so incredibly patient and wonderful all day had a solution though - off came his head (Bob's!) and in I stepped, to be quickly christened Bride of Davros/Queen of the Daleks. It was mad, it was hardly flattering, and I didn't care a jot - I chased after Laura, and went for a kiss with Gareth. Life is for having fun.

Photo: Laura Blakemore

The fun was just starting - it was time for the first dance. This was exciting for two reasons: all the evening guests had arrived, and afterwards I could finally take off my blasted high heels which were really starting to kill. Being a lady of great grace I'd packed some muddy flats for the occasion - always intending to clean them, and never getting round to it. I reasoned that nobody would see them under so much dress, but oddly people pulled my dress to see those far more than the beautiful Irregular Choice booties! The evening reception came quicker than planned - the Castle staff were absolutely outstanding at turning round the room!

Photo: Rob Grimes Photography
Our first dance song was Piledriver Waltz from the OST of Submarine - a little known indie film that had been filmed in Swansea and Gareth and I both adored. It was quite fast for a wedding dance, and everyone had been carefully threatened/bribed to come and dance with us after the first thirty seconds. We clearly didn't offer good enough bribes because nobody bloody came over until we called them. For somebody who loves dancing but is terrible - and I must stress terrible, I have no rhythm at all, I can't follow music and I'm a foot shorter than Gareth which makes dancing testing at the best of times - this was somewhat stressful! So I just hid in Gareth's arms and cwtched and swayed, and decided that as it was our wedding nobody would be rude enough to point out that hardly counted as dancing. (They didn't!)

Afterwards went very quickly - we danced, we sang too loudly, we chatted to people and felt rude constantly as we tried to juggle 80 guests all trying to talk to us at the same. That was awkward and I felt pretty awful about it all night - it really was two minutes and then somebody else would come up for a hug or to say goodbye. Obviously we took moments that were just for ourselves too - I remember 'Reach' by S Club 7 coming on and me yelling for Laura and Cathy (the bridesmaids) to come and dance - we're all of that age that our childhoods were full of Steps, S Club 7, Busted and McFly. I remember being confused that Cathy wasn't around at that point - but danced away as stupidly as ever with Laura and Chelsea LaVere. (Gareth came up to me afterwards saying Rob had whispered to him that Chelsea never dances, so I considered that a particular triumph!)

Bunting: Apple Blossom Lane
Photo: Ian Bishop
Later I went out to the bar, and unfortunately found Cathy cwtched up with my cousins feeling really unwell. I cannot thank Wills and Holly enough - you were both so utterly fabulous. It took a few more return trips, and some plain-speaking (I suspect, perhaps, I am sometimes too good at this - I remember telling Cathy rather loudly she looked 'shit' - when of course I meant something more ladylike such as 'terribly unwell, dear chum.' I imagine she understood, however.) before Cathy decided to call it a night and was escorted to a taxi by my lovely cousins. One Direction again meant nothing was simple - and instead of popping over to the taxi rank opposite the Castle as you would usually, it involved walking down past the road closures towards the closest hotel.

Photo: Rob Grimes Photography
Soon after, family members who had further to travel were starting to leave and the party was becoming divided between the chatty non-dancers, and those keeping the disco going. I continued to dance badly, continued to implore Gareth to come and dance (he was often caught up with relatives and friends and all the necessary talking stuff I am so bad at.), danced a lot with his cousins, (the Bundy girls! I remember asking Hannah - another new Bundy bride - if she had any tips. I don't think there are enough tips in the world to keep up with Gareth's folk, however! They are full of fun.) watched people take increasingly bad photos of me as being awake since 3am took its toll, and snuck drinks from Gareth's beer.

Cake: Little Cake Cupboard
Photo: Laura Blakemore
The evening buffet was served at 9pm, and I went and grabbed lots of wedding cake before heading to the bar to get some iced water. I always meant to head back to try the bacon sandwiches and glamorgan sausage rolls, but never got round to it - there was always so much to do, and I really was beginning to flag. I stayed and chatted at the bar - we had utterly delightful bar staff who by the end of the night were pouring glasses of water for me before I even needed to ask, and I was giving cake to. They were frightfully patient and fantastic. At about half ten, I went and sat down with Gareth's eldest nephew. He was dozy and drunk, I was high from the happiness of the occasion but shattered. It was a quiet pairing, but lovely. Then Ashton, one of the younger nephews turned up and I swept him up on my lap. His mum took a lovely photo of us. Ashton took a less flattering photo of Helen and myself, but then he is only four.

Photo: Helen

11pm. It was the end of night. Officially it was time for us to head off into the night. Pity the road - due to open now, had an extended closures for an extra thirty minutes. Due to all of this chaos and despite the Castle's endeavours throughout the night - Gareth and I didn't have an easy way of getting to the apartment. My fault entirely - it was the one thing I had forgotten in the build up to the day (that and order of services - which even when Cathy stepped in amazingly to fix, we still managed to bloody forget leaving them in my mam-in-law's handbag in the early morning panic.)

So Gareth and I left Cardiff Castle hand in hand and wandered along Castle Street with all the kicked-out drunks and hoards of One Direction fans. It was a unique end to the night as everyone called out "Is it your wedding day?!" and asked to pose with us. Gareth and I have been out so many times on a Saturday night that this somehow felt perfectly right and it was a good laugh after a busy day. Then we had to try and get a cab. This might perhaps have been easy, if either the other Saturday night revellers, the police, or the taxi drivers themselves had worked out how pick ups worked on this night of heavy traffic and overlong road closures. Each person we asked gave us different answers, queues formed all over the place but nobody arrived, and taxis sat parked for thirty minutes with no custom. Gareth - my excellent husband - took charge and just started talking to taxi drivers until one agreed to skip all this faff and take us. Ten minutes and we were at the apartment, kicking off our shoes and turning on Radio 4. We had been married just hours, but with four years behind us and many more years ahead of us, it was time to cwtch up and doze through the starry night.

Vendors:
Photographers - Rob Grimes Photography, with Chelsea LaVere as second shooter
Flowers - Forbesfield Flowers
Car - LoveDub Weddings
Hair - Charlotte Tattersall (Beautycurl)
Make Up - Heather Perrott (Beautycurl)
Cake - Little Cake Cupboard
DJ - Alan Matthews
Venue - Cardiff Castle Undercroft
Apartment - Porto House, Century Wharf, A Space in the City
Dalek - David Smith, Charity Sci-Fi

Sunday, 8 March 2015

#IWD2015

Sylvia Pankhurst
Strong women always inspire me, I read into them looking for where I identify, looking for where I ask questions about their choices and where I differ. I am inspired because we strive for a better place, and whilst we all go about it in different ways - their efforts cannot go unnoticed. For  I recognise those who have influenced my learning and my beliefs, those who have cut some of bullshit out of the world. 

I applaud my historical icons, whose philanthropy, socialist ideals and a common sense that people may well call "before their time" but I consider to be far closer to "bravery that was just in time" - reading about clever, informed women such as Sylvia Pankhurst who supported women's suffrage and fought hard to keep it linked to a political movement. Yet she recognised the horror of war in a way that many of her peers failed to, and worked hard provide relief - a "cost-price" restaurant for the hungry, setting up a factory for those women who had lost their jobs, fighting for the rights of soldiers' wives.

Philanthropist Octavia Hill found her own way to find better housing for the poorest citizens of London who were still being failed by a too-slowly improving system - she became a landlord, creating a housing scheme which focused on regular visits by volunteers who acted akin to social workers, whilst collecting rent; improved sanitary conditions; the creation of open space (she later became co-founder of the National Trust) - her ideas and inspiration to improve social conditions helped develop the management of local authority housing in the inter-war years, ironic considering her complete opposition to government and bureaucracy! 

Celebrities often have an enormous hold over the general public, and due to that I applaud the women in the public eye that challenge the stereotypes the media pushes on us, who respond to nonsense in an appropriately scathing fashion and time and time again highlight that being a woman is about being a human being - just like anybody else - rather that tits, a pretty dress and a polite smile. 

Interesting, thoughtful unapologetic women (and even that descriptor is horrible - what do they have to be apologetic for? Being clever, sassy, sexy, witty women with thoughts in their head and a mouth to define those words with? I still get excited when Victoria Coren is on my television screen, being human and cool and always, always well-considered in her utterances.) are some of the best people of the planet - just like interesting and thoughtful men are, the world sparkles when we are equal and your consideration of another is based on their words and actions, without regard to whether they've got a cock or not or whether society has pushed its sexist ideals and morals on you. 

I am so lucky to surround myself with amazing women, women I envy to be like - whether that is my mother-in-law just down the street who defeats every burden that comes at her, or the friends who will call out every episode of sexist cack because there is only one way to defeat sexism: look it in the face and call it out for the shitty thing it is. I am so lucky to be surrounded by amazing men, men who aren't blinkered by the traditions of patriarchy - my brother and his wife whose children have their mother's surname, by men who are rightly furious by the stories they hear and the everyday instances of derogatory media towards women. 

Applaud those who know not to accept the bullshit. Everyone considers feminism and how to be a feminist differently, but we stand united in declaring our utterly disdain for the bullshit that still permeates modern life.

Thursday, 12 February 2015

Friendship

Like Gareth, I seem to start most of my blog posts with "Oh no, I've been neglecting you - but I've got lots of new stuff to say, so expect regular posts from now on!" He's a bit better at actually keeping that promise, though. So what's been going on? My health is being especially dick-ish again, so I've been down about that - stressing out about tests, worried about medicines, and generally being a right misery to be around.

I can't change that overnight; I feel so on edge that I keep grabbing at ferns and long dead roots to keep me from falling off. However, gloom is not my master. I was cooking dinner tonight and a thought kept spinning though my head, 'If S hadn't spent so much time telling us about potatoes, the best ones for each season and for different types of cooking, our meals would be far less tasty right now. Yet none of us were very appreciative at the time.' I wanted to tweet him, but every time I tried to condense the thought into 140 characters it looked even more ludicrous than it had when I started. And yet all I was trying to do was express how much I appreciated his friendship, his shared knowledge and care that he applies to all things.

Despite my tweeting failure, it reminded me how much I loved our friends - of R who I miss terribly because he's moved away and tends to keep himself to himself (a problem I know far too well), and was the other foodie nerd, always creating things that seemed so refined and ridiculous for breakfast but then lived on Pepsi the rest of the time. And L, who wouldn't know a frying pan if I hit her over the head with one, but is the best listener, ridiculously patient and has the most common sense of anybody I know.

Our little motley crew (and motley really is the best word to describe us: young and old(er), educated and less so, extroverts and introverts we're tacked together by the glue of geekiness and years of love and shared experiences.) grew with R2 - the quietest of us all and yet probably the most witty, with a dry intellectual humour that has us in fits. Cinema became something regularly discussed rather than just an indoor activity on a rainy Cardiff day.

And then there are those who can't be there all the time - those that have commitments or live away, but every time they come out for a drink, or to play a game or simply a chat, Gareth and I always drive home saying 'It's always so nice when R3, or B, or L2, or P, or R4 and J is out, I wish we could see them more often.' The conversation drifts depending on who is out - to the utterly geeky about minute details of things, to singing randomly and joyfully just because (a few too many gins have been had) or to discussing the best gossip in town with brightly-lit eyes.

And then there's C, the rare star I keep in touch with from the horrible pre-Wales years, who knows me better than any other silly bugger on this planet and will always - and forever, I hope - bring me back down to earth with a bump and then the next second send me floating away again on some ridiculous scheme.

Gloom has a way of being all-consuming, of gripping you tight in an uncomfortable cwtch that you can't shake off. Worse, you stop wanting to shake it off because those cold arms become normal, become what you're used to and you start worrying how the air will feel against your skin once you're released from that soulless cuddle. My friends shine so brightly, the gloom fades to the background. I love them more than my rubbish words could ever say, and hopefully they are well aware of that.

And thank you, Ga, for always holding my hand and kissing my worries away.

Saturday, 20 September 2014

Wed-threads: Identity

This is perhaps the most confusing post I will write within the wed-threads series. Today I discuss something that has an effect that lasts far longer than droopy flowers or a rubbish DJ: my name. A choice I have to make that will last the rest of my life.

I think it would be fair to call me a feminist, I am deeply concerned about equality and always try to combat inequality as it occurs in my day-to-day life. (Having male dominated hobbies and careers, this is sadly quite regular!) So my typical response would be along the lines of "Well of course I'll be keeping my name! Gareth doesn't own me!" etc etc etc. This would concur with the fact I bloody adore my surname (something I don't mention publically on this blog for hopeful wishes of privacy) and Gareth's surname doesn't sit brilliantly with my forename (Aimee Bundy has quite a lot of rhyming 'ee' sounds.) (Just to note: I'm not being a privacy hypocrite, Gareth is less shy of the internet than me and even his twitter handle uses his surname - @gabundy)

My surname is special to me, it's already double-barrelled and both parts are tremendously important to me. I would hate to me without it, I'm worried I will feel cut loose from my identity by ripping it away from me. However - I'm not just losing my name, I'm adding to it as well. This is the important aspect: I am becoming "Mrs" Aimee...

This changes everything. No longer is it about clinging on to my own identity, it is about shaping my own identity and continuing to be my own person in a confusing fog of letters and history. Both my mother and my mother-in-law's forenames also begin with an A - they are Anabel and Ann respectively. Now I start to think of letters coming through my front door:

  • letters for Mrs A [My current surname] - they must be for my mother, not for me!
  • letters for Mrs A Bundy - they must be for my mother-in-law, she lives just down the road after all!


So who do I become? I no longer wish to simply keep my surname - I don't want to become my mother in that way, and I will always see Mrs [My current surname] as her. Equally, I would like my children to have the same name as me, and that isn't something I would ever consider even possibly taking away from Gareth. Equally, I don't want post to be addressed to two different people especially (Dear Mr Bundy and Mrs BlahBlahBlah) - I do want to 'become one' with my husband, however much that should disagree with my politics. I am still an old romantic, I guess.

So what can I do? I can't triple-barrel my name and ask Gareth to take it: it wouldn't fit on forms and would sound utterly ridiculous! I can't create a new double-barrel it as I would find taking Gareth's surname and half my surname to be very disrespectful to the side of the family whose name I chose to dump. Creating a surname is now becoming more popular, but that doesn't appeal in the slightest - it has no heritage behind it, no background.

So what will I do? I'm still not certain. I hoped writing this blog might soothe my identity crisis. If I had to make a decision today I would  become "Mrs Aimee Bundy" - starting afresh is perhaps easier than trying to wrangle the remains into something shiny and possible. Oddly, it feels easier to take my mother-in-law's name than my mother's. I'm not sure I like how easy it feels - how easy it is for patriarchal customs to inflict themselves on my innermost thoughts and feelings just because it's 'the way things are.' I hope I simply have had less years of hearing "Mrs Bundy" refer to somebody else and that is why I am edging that way. I'm not sure I believe that though.

This is a topic I may revisit as the months tick down (something they are doing at alarming speed!) - I hope I am closer to being settled on the subject by then.

Previously in Wed-threads:

Thursday, 18 September 2014

Wed-threads: Venue

I've never been a wedding dress person, as a little girl I never dreamt of how my perfect gown would look. (I wish I had, it might have made the hunt for a dress a little less traumatic.)

I've always been happy to look at different venues though. Before Gareth and I were even engaged, my mother and I would daydream about different places and secretly potter about the internet (no pressure on Ga!) trying to find somewhere perfect. To be honest, I didn't really need to look far: I've always loved historic venues, places where hundreds of brides' feet have walked the same path mine will. I love stone walls, I love big oppressive buildings that haunt your mind and soul.

I absolutely adore castles. I grew up near Arundel Castle, which is my dream fairytale castle. I can remember having a tiny book of British castles, and I always thought Arundel Castle was the most perfect, the most beautiful, the most outstanding castle in the book. One of my regular childhood haunts was Swanbourne Lake and we would always drive past the castle to get there - and if you climbed up the chalk hills you could get a beautiful glimpse of the castle.

I'm not getting married at Arundel Castle. This doesn't upset me - firstly it's impossible, Arundel Castle doesn't offer weddings, and secondly there was absolutely no way I was getting married in West Sussex. In three years I've absolutely fallen in love with Cardiff and could not imagine getting married anywhere else. South Wales is my home.

Wales is the best place ever to want to get married in a castle. You have so many options! Some of the ones that were briefly considered included Caerphilly Castle, Craig-y-Nos Castle (tempting - it has a Doctor Who connection as it was Torchwood House in Tooth and Claw, and they often have good weekday offers on Groupon) and Hensol Castle. I was also tempted by Pencoed House because it was beautiful, and had its own whisky bar (my favourite tipple)!

We had a few requirements though - I really wanted somewhere that was easy to travel to, a "dry" wedding didn't appeal to me, so somewhere where people would have to drive to, and then drive to a hotel at the end of the night wasn't preferable. Equally - forcing people to stay at a location (one of the issues with Craig-y-Nos) was really off putting. A weekend wedding was again something that I was pretty determined to get - I'm quite guest conscious and I was really concerned about sending an invite that ended up having "you will need to take a couple of precious days of holiday to come to the wedding, then pay a fortune to stay at the only hotel in the area (which naturally they will charge you a premium for), and obviously you'll have the costs of travel, and even a new outfit and presents if you chose!" written between the lines. Not something I was comfortable with.

There was one perfect place: Cardiff Castle. It would blow the budget but it was gorgeous, there would be amazing wedding photos, it was in a city that really meant something to me (chip butty on Caroline Street at 2am after the wedding, anyone?), there were hotels for every budget, and you can get there by walking (for the local friends), bus, train, coach or plane! (And car - though car parking is where Cardiff really does fail dramatically - car park tips will be included in the invites, though!)

With Cardiff Castle chosen there was only one room I was interested in - the one I had kept going back to when giggling with my mother, the one that when I looked at wedding venues I would always compared them to: The Undercroft. It was stunning, full of thick stone walls and a vaulted ceiling; it was truly old in a very young castle; it was completely separate so we would have our own private, intimate bash away from prying eyes; and as a bonus it was the cheapest room for the number of guests we were inviting! It is perfect and makes me feel like a fairytale princess - not something I'm used to!

Now with an expensive venue booked, it was time to cut back and try and pull the costs back into line.

Previously in Wed-threads:

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Wed-threads: Twitter and Doctor Who - The Love Story

This is the start of Wed-threads: little thoughts and posts as I prepare to marry @gabundy. It's a journey I hope to never forget, but knowing myself a little too well it's probably for the best that I'm going to have it written down. (Forgetful, me? Perhaps just a little.) I'll still continue to try and post #dwsr and #setlock posts - but these have been thin on the ground of late.

I owe #dwsr a lot. I wouldn't even be in this position without it. Years ago I used to silently frequent the popular Doctor Who internet forum Outpost Gallifrey (the predecessor of Gallifrey Base) - then I loved to read spoilers, and would obsessively refresh the set reports thread on my school lunch break. Tiny details would excite and amuse me! It took me ages to realise that #dwsr existed - but when I finally did learn about this awesome hashtag, I created a twitter account immediate! Twitter was quiet though, my feed was empty of humourous chatter, nonsensical statements and political aggressiveness. I needed to follow people!

So I followed the "regulars" - those who had their twitter handle named on their Outpost Gallifrey profile and posted about things I was interested in. Weirdly of those first ten or so people I followed, I'm marrying one and another is going to be his best man. It's strange how these things happen.

In the mean time I got older, I got iller, I became more introverted and depressed. There was a year where I only left the house to go to hospital appointments (I'm allergic to sunlight, when you don't know what medicines work for you it can get pretty awkward pretty quickly.) Twitter had become a lifeline - a window to look into happy lives, a place to chat without prejudice. I wasn't just talking about Doctor Who now - @tlchimera had become a fully formed personal account, full of Formula One, Strictly Come Dancing, tennis scores and feminist commentary. I was still sad and lonely, but I was distracted. Distracted by the people living in my phone.

One of the people in my phone tweeted a lot about how ill he felt. About black dogs visiting, about entire days being wasted away by illness. I felt akin to this anonymous person - he was going through the same horrible shit as me. I'd tweet him sometimes, "Hope your day improves xx", "Sending hugs", "Sorry you're still feeling so bad." He never replied. I didn't worry, I just irregularly continued to send messages. If he got some kind of comfort from them, then that was good enough for me. I was worried though - worried about somebody I'd never met. When you're in such a solitary scenario it's easy to form attachments, you have plenty of time to think and dream.

One day he replied. It was late (or perhaps early) - and we had a snippy but silly conversation about whether the other person should be in bed. Resting, getting better. It was the start of something amazing. We started to tweet each other more regularly. He revealed he had thought I was a "tender loving care bot" set to automatically send caring messages to those tweeting their woes. I guess it made sense - my handle starts with "tlc." I'm glad he realised I was real though!

From there we progressed from twitter to MSN (yes, we really were still in the dark ages!) and Skype. A few months later we met in Cardiff Bay, and by this point we were entranced by each other.

Three years on, with loads of Doctor Who set reporting adventures in between, he proposed just before the fiftieth anniversary episode of Doctor Who, on 23rd November 2013. He intended to put the ring in the plunger of a Dalek, but couldn't get batteries for our remote-controlled one! Doctor Who (and Twitter) pushed me towards the man I cannot wait to marry. I've been a very lucky girl.

This is the start of Wed-threads: a series of blog posts documenting our engagement and the arrangements and deliberations for our wedding.

Monday, 2 June 2014

Photomarathon 2014

I'm rarely somebody who looks far ahead into the future. Holidays are never planned, and parties are impromptu. However there was something (other than my wedding!) that I've been looking forward to for over a year: Photomarathon 2014. Having only found out about Photomarathon UK a few days before the 2013 event and tickets already being sold out, I was determined to go with my partner (who is really the photographer. I stand around and make opinionated statements..) this year! Tickets were swiftly purchased as soon as I saw a tweet that they were now available, and I've been kicking my heels waiting for May 31st to come along!

"Green" from our practice
photomarathon.
Being completely new to the Photomarathon experience we decided to have a practice run in Cardiff Bay a few months before, using a previous year's list of topics. This was disastrous. We soon edited the rules to mean we could take the photos in any order and even then I don't think any of us completed a set! This didn't really help our panicked expectations for a long, confusing day..


We arrived bright and early with a bag full of stuff we thought we'd need for the day: emergency Jaffa Cakes, pens and paper, a bag of meeples.. Oh yeah, meeples. If you haven't ventured into my blog before you'll be unaware of the fact Gareth and I are massive modern board game enthusiasts (and I even work for a board game shop!) - meeples are "mini people" often used instead of pawns in games. We chose to use a red one from the game Tournay as the star of our photos and to provide a bit of a through-line. It was pretty much our undoing...

Partaking in coffee and a cake in the Millennium Centre, we waited for the clock to tick down. What were going to be the topics? Will we be able to incorporate Fred the Meeple into each shot? Would another slice of cake hurt? Finally everyone gathered and there was a rousing, celebratory speech to commemorate ten years of Photomarathon. Then we were off, we bustled out of the door and were handed our fate for the next four hours. They were: 1. Me, Myself and I (plus entry number) 2. Street Level 3. Camouflage and 4. Ten. It was time for an excited wander around the bay, throwing ideas back and forth.

1. Me, Myself and I

Like everybody else we immediately were drawn to the idea of three images of a person (meeple) for Me, Myself and I. As we wandered we saw more and more people taking those shots though and struggled to come up with something more original. Failing to find inspiration, we thought about ideas for the other categories. We spotted red chairs in the Millennium Centre shop and darted over there to ask permission to photograph Fred against them. This granted, we did a test shot (yes, well before the first two images were even chosen - we were back in our dangerous practice-run territory.) We loved the bright red background against Fred, it was perfect for camouflage. Gareth already had a strong idea of what he wanted to do for Street Level so Me, Myself and I was really holding us up.

2. Street Level

In the end we went back to our original idea, even though we wished we could come up with something more unusual we were hitting a blank. A trip to the car for a hand mirror and that was sorted. Now we could move on! We headed back towards the Bay through the Red Dragon Centre. I kept walking but Gareth had stopped. "What? We need to get a move on - we've wasted an hour doing nothing!" I complained. He pointed out the amazing expanse of bright red wall to our left. Our camouflage shot had just been improved. We quickly headed into the Bay to find somewhere to photograph somebody with over-long jeans (Some five-foot short-arse with a board game addiction.. not a clue who.) with Fred directly in the foreground. We headed back to the Red Dragon Centre and the first three shots were quickly in the bag after an hour of deliberation!

3. Camouflage

Ten. Ten was a struggle. There were a lot of literal things we could have gone for - ten meeples being the most obvious, but Ga really wanted something a bit different. As usual I stuck to stating the obvious "We should have realised "ten" would be a category - it's the tenth anniversary!" I don't think Gareth found it very helpful. Back in the Red Dragon Centre we headed into the Bowling Arcade, desperate for inspiration. The penny-pushers were where we hit gold - not only for 1p or 2p, there were machines full of 10ps! We tried out different ideas, having Fred and loads of 10ps in the coin tray to make it look like he was a prize, but it just wasn't a very nice shot. Gareth went over to ask the man whether we could put Fred inside the machine for a moment, explaining about the photomarathon. He was incredibly helpful and opened up the machine for us - despite it being a really busy day! We only had a few moments to take the shot so it may not be the best angle or focus - but it certainly involved the most gumption!

4. Ten

It was time for the pub and some Pepsi. Looking through our photos we were reasonably happy at this stage - it was going okay, maybe some weren't perfect but they weren't awful either! Avoiding awful was pretty much where our hopes lay for the day. Then it was back to the Millennium Centre to pick up the second set of topics. 5. We're All In This Together 6. Attention to Detail 7. Control 8. Crossed Wires. A pattern seemed to develop at this stage - Gareth would immediately have plans for the second shot, the third shot we had loads of thoughts for but the first would cause a disagreement and the last we would be utterly stuck for ideas for.

We also started to really regret using the meeple. He was a pain when we were idea-less, often tethering us to very literal interpretations of ideas and sometimes felt very "tacked on" to the shots (if he feels like that now, wait until you see the worn-out Aimee and Gareth's idea for topic twelve!) For, "We're All In This Together," Gareth wanted to do a photograph somewhere that showed the divide between rich and poor. This slowly became more and more impossible to capture - even with a bus journey to central Cardiff. Tips for future board-game-playing photomarathoners (surely, there are others out there!) - meeples look utterly rubbish lining up to get into job centres. Even when you try multiple job centres..

We had to go for a more literal understanding of the topic in the end. So after the job centre crawl, we went around searching for a bottle of "This Water" to put the meeples in. After visiting multiple Tescos, Sainsburys, Boots, Poundlands, coffee shops, Waitrose and not finding it anywhere, I googled it to discover Gareth and I are way behind the times: its name was changed back to "Juicy Water" in 2013. Bum. We'd lost two hours to hopeless shots and fruitless quests. We were a little stressed and grumpy at this stage(!) We returned to the Bay - our success had been far better over there! We decided to put the meeples into a perilous situation, first soaking them (meeples float so they didn't look like they were drowning, sadly..) and eventually burying them up to their heads. Topic five broke our spirit, a little, but it was finally finished:

5. We're All In This Together
The only trouble we had with number six (Attention to Detail) was Gareth's rapidly dying phone battery. He wanted to include Fred in a different way and succeeded with this typo-laden photograph:

6. Attention to Detail
We needed a quick-y at this stage, we were getting tired and needed food and the next set of topics was going to turn up soon. Plus we still had no idea what we were going to do for number eight (crossed wires.) Control took us to sitting on a bench while I controlled a meeple. I was tempted to do this actually on a game board, but that would have meant popping to my work in town to borrow something as we didn't have anything suitable with us, and that would have added a lot of wasted time to our day.

7. Control
It was time for the next topics so we headed to the Millennium Centre, still musing about what to do for Crossed Wires. We met a lovely employee who was sorting things out in the fuse cupboard behind the stage, and a quick snap of Fred meant we had finished the four topics before the next four were released! This delighted us as it was something we hadn't been expecting after our long search for number five.

8. Crossed Wires

The next four topics were: Dying of the Light, Stacked Up, Join the Dots and That's A Wrap! Our pattern of the first one being tricky to agree on, the second two going well and the last one being somewhat hopeless kicked in again. We went for food - maybe our brains would work better with a pint and a burger inside them! The Dying of the Light ideas were split between a Dylan Thomas book we picked up (meeples are hopeless at reading though..) or a moodily lit shot. We asked if we could use the cupboard in the pub, but were sadly told it would have to go through their PR department! Fair enough, we finished our meals and headed back into the Bay and found a nice shadowed area:

9. Dying of the Light

Stacked Up was a simple one - we had brought plenty of meeples with us and they joined Fred to build a pyramid. Sadly not a very high one as I had very clumsy fingers:

10. Stacked Up
We were down to the last two - and were still milling around in the Millennium Centre. We had considered finding somewhere the had loads of decorative dots and using string or chalk to shape a meeple through them, or alternatively just draw one on some paper. Luckily, however, there was an amazing blackboard in the Millennium Centre and our join the dots was born:

11. Join The Dots

That's A Wrap, That's A Wrap.. I'll admit we were idea-less at this stage, the marathon had broken us and I was worrying about having enough sleep for work the next day. We piled up our bags, camera cases and meeples and went to take a photo. We just couldn't get a nice shot of it though, it looked like what it was: a pile of stuff taken by a tired photographer. We were very jealous of the clapperboards we saw others had found! In the end, Gareth ran away to Sainsbury's, telling me he'd had an idea and would be back shortly - he arrived back with the final wrap in the shop! And here was our somewhat sloppy finish:

12. That's A Wrap
We absolutely loved our first photomarathon. It was a long day and we learnt a lot of lessons that we can't wait to bring to next year's event. Next year we'll aim to do an unthemed set, which will hopefully allow us to get a bit more creative with our ideas! And maybe we'll improve our stamina a little as well.. It was great day, and we loved milling around Cardiff with hundreds of other photographers. It's been very exciting to see there photos cropping up on flickr. We're looking forward to seeing even more at the exhibition at Cardiff Story in The Hayes, which will be open from 21st June to 5th July, 10am - 4pm. See you there!